How journaling got me out 🌱 of an emotional slump

March 17, 2023 - Reading time: 3 minutes

When my girlfriend broke up with me, I was devastated. I couldn't comprehend what was happening and didn't understand why it was happening. Although I heard what she said, I couldn't fully process it. I made a few desperate attempts to convince her to give me another chance, but she was determined to end things. All I could see was that I had been dumped. She asked for a last hug, but I declined and went for a clean break, cutting all ties. This was the most heart-wrenching moment of my life. I stood up and walked away, never looking back.

After that, I couldn't sleep at night without her occupying my mind. I hardly got any sleep, and sometimes I even started crying. The pain of not having her in my life was unbearable. Day after day, my sleep grew worse, and I couldn't stop thinking about what went wrong and what I could do to win her back. Two weeks in, I woke up and called her. I was really nervous, but relieved when I heard her voice. I told her that I missed her, to which she responded similarly. I shared my mixed emotions with her, and she seemed to feel the same way. I asked her to meet up, which she accepted. However, she had to cancel later that day, as it was still too soon for her. I called her again because I wanted to talk, and during this call, I realized that I didn't understand anything about what had happened and why it happened. I was confused.

I then remembered that she had been trying to tell me about the problem for over a month, but I had been hearing her without truly listening. Realizing this, I started to journal. I realized that if I had thought more about what she was saying, I would have noticed the problem much earlier and faced it head-on. My solution was to write down whatever happened every day. This way, I could prevent something like this from ever happening again in the future because I could reflect on every single day. This was the start of my journaling journey. Every day, I would dissect every single event that happened during the last weeks, learn from it, and understand what went wrong and how I could prevent it in the future.

This was how my method for journaling was born. I write down every little thing with significance that happens during the day and how I feel about it. Before sleeping, I go through my day and start reflecting. Seeing every situation in a different light helps me process the situation in a clear way and decide whether the way the situation unfolded was the way I wanted it to or not. If not, I think about how I want it to be in the future, and those thoughts get written down in my journal and become a part of me. It is as if I have lived the situation before.
Having said all that, I am really grateful for how events turned out. I have learned what it means to love and to be heartbroken. I have found journaling to be a perfect tool for my emotional well-being and have even created my own journaling app called Memoiri.

I hope you enjoyed reading this.